Comforts

It’s been just about a week since we got the call from our parents about our cousin’s passing. The last week has been heavy, hard, and deeply sad. Our parents had the opportunity to drive down to Rochester, MN, and spend time with the rest of the family. We had uncles and aunts fly in from India. The support and togetherness must have helped – as much as it could.

K and I had a tough time coping on our own. We weren’t surrounded by family. We couldn’t even be together. But I know K got some amazing support on her end (thanks for that), and besides my fiancé, who I’m convinced is the best comfort-er, having a little puppy to snuggle with and keep my heart warm didn’t hurt.

Fiancé and I have had Kingston for just about 10 days now. He is a handful (I can’t say I wasn’t warned), but he’s getting better. Once he stops chewing my amazing coffee table, and ripping apart my beautiful bamboo footstool, I’m sure I’ll think he’s a perfect angel. For now, though, he’s just like a baby. Can’t control his bladder, getting into mischief, making himself at home, and really owning the role as his human parent’s boss. He’s finally sleeping through the night (rejoice!), but gets so lonely during the work day. We have an amazing dog walker that comes and plays with him during the day – he can’t go outside for another month until he gets his shots – and is working on training him a bit.

The best thing about Kingston, though, is he is so incredibly loving. Already. He loves to snuggle, it makes his day when we pick him up and hold him, and he’s really trying to be a good boy – for the most part. And the emotional support he gives – not even kidding – is wonderful and kind of mind-boggling. Here are some pictures of our first pit stop together 🙂

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The Gautam and Pai sisters are all coming to town this weekend, so Kingston will finally get to meet some of his aunts (still eagerly waiting to meet his M Aunt and A Aunt), and his baby cousins. We’re hoping he’s on his best (and cutest) behavior.

Look forward to sharing everything we do this weekend when we’re all together. Looking forward to some quality family time.

Hugs & love, A

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The Doggy Diaries – Part II

If you haven’t already caught wind of the news (mostly from me babbling on and on and on about it), our puppy is finally confirmed!

In my last post, I shared a bit on the adoption process. How I went a little crazy over this adorable puppy (without even talking to Fiancé…), and decided that I just needed him. Of course, that didn’t end up working out. The pup was in Ohio, we couldn’t get much information on his health, where he came from, etc., and he needed to be picked up in 24-hours. For us Manhattan-ites, figuring out a car situation and driving eighteen hours on a few hours notice is tough. And since Fiancé just wasn’t 100% sold, we couldn’t go through with it. It would have been his puppy too, after all!

Over the next few days, we kept our eyes on all of the adoption sites: BARC, Badass Brooklyn Animal Rescue, Petfinder (with a more local filter this time!), even Craigslist (per a recommendation from my dog-loving friend, Cio <3). But with my slight dog allergy, & NYC-sized apartment space, we just couldn’t find a doggy that fit the bill. And the last thing we wanted was to get a dog we wouldn’t be able to care for properly.

So, we started investigating breeders. There are a lot of weird ones out there, so it’s important to be very very careful and do a lot of research. I realized that testimonials (real ones) are key. The breeder we found had a huge Facebook presence with hundreds of customers posting pictures of their dogs (even 12-year old dogs which they had gotten from her back in the day!), and singing her praises. She had a bunch of mixed breed honeys, and as soon as Fiancé saw some of the pictures she sent us, he totally fell in love.

I’ve been speaking to the breeder at length since then – seriously bless her for putting up with my incessant questions! She stayed on the phone with me for an hour the night we decided to finalize, telling me all about him and his parents, filling me in on what we’d need, etc. It was the most wonderful, stress-free, comforting process.

SO, in two weeks, our little guy KINGSTON is going to arrive. And we CAN’T WAIT.

I don’t have any pictures of him to share yet, but rest assured that when we do start posting pictures, it’ll never stop. Consider this your preemptive puppy picture hiatus.

Can’t wait to get started on all the cute puppy shopping! My Mom’s already started – she got him the bowls below 🙂

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Hope everyone’s week is off to a great start.

Love,

A

PS – Any puppy advice would be much appreciated, so send it our way!

On Making Choices

I found this quote on Mashable today. Now I don’t usually seek out life inspiration on Mashable. It’s generally reserved for updates on digital behaviors or stats on how many Millenials play Flappy Bird. But as I was skimming through my Facebook Newsfeed over my morning cup of coffee, I saw “In case you need them… 10 Mister Roger’s quotes to remember on bad days.”

My day hasn’t been bad per se, but couldn’t we all use a pick me up on a Tuesday morning?

Anyway, one of these Mister Roger’s quotes really stood out to me. It’s a feeling that’s been weighing heavy on my heart a lot these days.

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It’s glaringly obvious these days that there is time for very little outside of work (& secondarily wedding planning). I try and call my family every day (even for a few minutes), I hang out with my fiancé, eat some food, and sleep. A lot of what I envisioned for this year has already fallen to the wayside, but I’ve learned not to be too hard on myself. I’m trying and prioritizing the best I can!

So when we decided to get a dog, everyone’s opinions really hit me hard. Some people expressed their disagreement, and others, their concern. Some people asked us how we could be so irresponsible. Why were we choosing such a busy time in our lives to get a puppy?

My answer to them (and myself, because of course when the people you love are against something you’re doing, you experience a bit of cognitive dissonance), is because it feels right. Because we’re choosing to do this over other things. Because it’s coming from a deep sense of who we are! It’s something that we’ve always wanted and from the inside, looking out on our lives, it makes sense. Even if from the outside looking in, it doesn’t.

And this sentiment from Mr. Rogers is so inherent to everything we do, no matter what phase of life we’re in. Do we take time off after college to travel? Do we move to a far away city to fulfill what may be a pipedream? Do we quit our job because we hate it? Do we get married? Do we break up? Do we put our careers on the back-burner to raise a family?

People will always disagree and have something to say, but if your decision comes from “a deep sense of who you are,” how can you be wrong?

Love,

A

The Doggy Diaries – Part I

I have a confession to make. Amidst the utter utter madness that is my life right now, I haven’t been focusing on what I should. Work is… happening. Wedding planning is also happening. And though my brain is chugging along and going through all of the necessary motions, my heart is doing something entirely different.
Dreaming about a dog.
About two weeks ago, I found and fell in love with this puppy on Petfinder. He was up for adoption and I just HAD TO HAVE him. His name was Squigles. YES. Squigles.
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I emailed the volunteer to inquire, and found out he had a ton of applications on him. Of course I freaked out because I had immediately planned our entire life together, and submitted an application. Fiancé was busy, so he found out later. Ooops. This is the wrong way to go about things. I know!!!!!
I couldn’t stop thinking about my future puppy. I looked at what supplies I would need, made fiancé a Keynote presentation filled with reasons why we should get a dog and why we could absolutely, 200%, without a doubt handle it splendidly. I even called a local Vet to find out how much all of the first-year medical treatments would cost.
I was serious. Zero to obsessed in a matter of days.
Squigles didn’t end up working out *cue devastation and unruly tears.* Adoption, even in the puppy sense, is hard. It’s trying and risky and sad (though of course it’s incredibly rewarding when it does work out – and is undoubtedly the best way to go). And even though I didn’t know what to do with myself after what I thought was my dream puppy, slipped through my fingers (except allow Fiancé to cheer me up with dreams of the puppy we’d pick together), I knew that the time in my life had just arrived. I always knew I wanted a dog, and suddenly, something just clicked (I’d appreciate if you avoid making weird nesting jokes about my maternal instincts – I’m only 26, people!).
I had taken a step in the right direction. AND, due to my excellently crafted presentation (thank you, Advertising for teaching me how to sell!), I had convinced Fiancé.
So now we’re in the process of looking for our future puppy (which is much harder than you think but also probably much more exciting)! We’re exploring the best routes to getting a healthy, happy puppy, in a way that keeps our conscience clear. No pet stores for us!
So call us crazy, tell us we have bad timing, continue to scream at us about how we should “WAIT UNTIL AFTER THE HONEYMOON!” but we will politely ignore you. This is going to happen!
I will keep you all posted. I think things will happen pretty fast :), so keep your eyes peeled for a puppy reveal sometime very soon!
Excitedly Yours,
A
PS – If anyone else is thinking of bringing a furry loved one into their life, I can drop some serious knowledge, so shoot me a note.