Happy Sibling’s Day! I thought this year, instead of the usual Instagram shout out, I’d give you something more.
It’s been quite a while since I sat down to write about you or our relationship. The last time I did, I wrote about living in your shadow. About how people would talk about me only within your context. And how, I guess that should have upset me. But it never really did. Growing up I could think of no better place to live than in your shadow. In the strong, graceful and kind cover and protection you provided for me. And in a way, we’re past that. I’ve grown into my own individual, yes – but still rely on that blanket of safety you continue to provide me.
The past few years have been a whirlwind for both of us. Each year going faster and changing our lives more than the previous one. From you tying your life to someone else’s to me cutting ties with an old home and starting afresh. We have been tested – in our careers, in relationships, in health. But never have we let this pattern of tests be applied to our relationship. In fact, I can only remember one time where we got close to testing the strength of our bond, only to drop it and order pizza.
Rarely do I say this, at the risk of hurting others who are important to me, but you truly are the most influential and important person in my life. You’ve taught me everything I know. You’ve shown me more than anyone else, how to love my family, how to love myself and how to live a life I’m proud of. You’ve shared your passions, an industry, a city, a blog (and most importantly, Kingston) with me, and I can’t imagine sharing so much with anyone else.
I am so grateful to have you to turn to, to learn from and to laugh with.
Love you long time,